tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7210451620352053440.post1049890112949996166..comments2023-08-18T20:49:30.770+10:00Comments on A Birds Eye View: The GuiltApril @ Composed by Aprilhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17403585622248576430noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7210451620352053440.post-19901082041263884762012-05-22T15:40:41.963+10:002012-05-22T15:40:41.963+10:00April, I felt the same way as you about most of my...April, I felt the same way as you about most of my pregnancy. The managing to get pregnant bit and the feeling crap and not being able to walk and just wanting it all over were exactly how I felt too. Now I feel guilty that I wished it all away and didn't savour it. I also wished away the newborn phase when I wanted to not be stressed about my baby losing weight and feeding and all the other dramas. Now I wish I could have it all back! I don't think there is any way to win. You are doing a great job and inspire me many days.Nichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03737102040501690626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7210451620352053440.post-85847523331889464652012-05-16T08:14:28.678+10:002012-05-16T08:14:28.678+10:00April - please please take lots of big deep breath...April - please please take lots of big deep breaths and reassure yourself that you're PERFECTLY NORMAL. This mother guilt thing affects everyone. I was miserable at home with the Sprog, I had no friends in Darwin, I was SO DAMN HAPPY about going back to work. Plus it's really really REALLY hard to adjust to life with a child. The loss of your liberty. The fact you essentially will have this child accompanying you everywhere you go for the next 10 or so years. And having to have a set of eyes in the back of your head just to make sure they don't get into any troule… it's all very hard to adjust to. Just before I read this post I was thinking about how before I had Harrie, I found it so hard to travel with the SProg, whereas now we have two kids and it seems way easier. (My kids are three months apart - I had no trouble conceiving either of them, I just was so afraid of parenthood being just as, or even more unenjoyable, the second time around…) Guess what. Number two is so much easier. I'm already used to having kids accompany me everywhere. Eyes in the back of my head is second nature. And I've found a great group of mums around town so I get out and do something almost every morning. I enjoy Harrie so much more than I did the Sprog, and I feel a bit guilty about that, but i really just have to tell myself that there's no point feeling guilty or feeling bad about feeling guilty. It's in the past, and the best thing to do is just take a deep breath and try (and I know how hard it is!!) TRY to focus on the positives… xxx good luck. You're not alone.Brooke - Little Miss Moihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17267299830665625580noreply@blogger.com